Oops, it’s been a while

Man I am no good at keeping up with this am I? So much has happened since my last post, but I’ll try to keep it short so I don’t bore anyone.

I started my injections when I said I was going to. My Mom came to work every day and we went into the bathroom to do them. It was just one at first…a tiny little needle. It had to go in my stomach. Super easy, but I was afraid to do it myself. After a while I was comfortable and able to do it on my own. Then I started the big dog haha. It’s a much bigger and thicker needle and it goes above my butt, in the hip area. Not exactly comfortable, but thankfully it doesn’t hurt afterwards. I only have to do that one Mondays and Thursdays, and just this week I got to stop the smaller one. Butttt…..now I have added another one to the fun. Another big needle, and in the same location on my body. This one is EVERY DAY. So on Mondays and Thursdays I’ll have two injections. I also had to add 3 other pills to the mix. So I’m taking 6 prenatal vitamins, baby aspirin, and 3 other pills to help prepare for the transfer….

WHICH IS IN ONE WEEK!

Yup! My transfer is next Wednesday the 22nd. I can’t believe it! I’m excited and it’s crazy that it’s here.

I told my IPs and they’re really excited! We are going to skype this Sunday so we can talk about it. We’ve been doing a bi-weekly Skype call to catch up and get to know each other.

I think that’s it for now! Crazy to think a week from now I could be pregnant!

Think sticky thoughts for me!

 

 

French Fries and Pineapple??

It has been a while since I’ve posted, and I’m so sorry! I got a bit behind on homework, got busy with life, then little K got sick. I am finally able to sit down and post, so here we go.

The one hour drive wasn’t bad. I got my contracts notarized quickly, got to meet up with a good friend, then got back and got the contracts mailed and faxed where I needed to!

I found out from my agency, and other people on the agency Facebook page that there are superstitions as far as “luck” on transfer day goes. I heard that wearing something green during the transfer, wearing or eating pineapple during/after the transfer, and eating McDonalds French fries after the transfer are all things that bring you good luck! After searching for what seems like forever, I found LulaRoe leggings with storks all over them that I wanted to wear to my transfer. I’m going to get green socks to wear underneath, and I have no problem eating French fries afterwards! I might eat pineapple too haha!

Meeting my IF! Man, I was nervous all week! I made sure to dress nice and little K did too! We got to the restaurant a little early. When we got there, we went in to give our names because we had reservations. My IF showed up just a few minutes later. At first it felt like a first “blind” date. I hugged him, then we all sat down. It was a little awkward at first, but really only for a minute. He made me feel so comfortable, and he was so great with little K. He asked her questions and even brought her a gift from his country. She was so excited! That was actually a great ice breaker for sure, although I wasn’t expecting anything! We brought him and his wife a gift too, and he loved it! He had a few questions for me and they were easy to answer. I asked him questions too. It was a great way to get to know him. I wish his wife could make it, but she was unable to get time off from work, so we are going to plan a skype call soon. And they are both hoping to visit over the summer.

It all seems so real now! Not like it didnt before, it’s just getting so close!

Monday will be when I start my injections. I cant stand the vitamins I have to take each day, but I know it’ll be worth it! My Mom is going with me to my Monday appointment so she can learn the injections, so she can give them to me, because i really don’t think I’m gonna be comfortable doing it.

I also decided today that I am going to start a journal as soon as i am told I’m pregnant. It will have logs of my pregnancy pictures of ultrasounds and belly pics, and any other info I want to add. Then I will give it to my IPs after the baby is born. I thought that would be a cool gift from me to them. 🙂

That’s all for now! I will try to update more consistently.

Shots hurt & meeting time!

Well, I had to go get my hep b immunization at the IVF clinic yesterday. I forgot how much shots hurt haha. My arm also feels like I lifted a ton of weights every day for the past week! After the appointment, I had to go to the pharmacy in the same building, and they give me all of my future meds. There was a lot! It is all stuff I need to get my uterus ready to carry a child that isn’t mine. I start my BC, Prenatal Vitamins, and baby aspirin on Sunday!

A few abbreviations to remember:

IP- Intended Parents

IF- Intended Father

IM- Intended Mother

I am having a baby for a couple. I am not going to say much about them though until I talk to them and see what they are comfortable with me saying. They do not live here though.

Today I got an email from my agency that said that my IF will be here in about 2 weeks. He wants to take little K and I out to lunch one day. Woah! That is so exciting, but I also instantly felt nervous! I met my IPs on skype before they chose to have me as their surrogate. They are so kind and I know we will all get along great. I love that my IF wants to include little K.

Saturday I have to drive an hour away to get my contract notarized. (Both parties have a contract which is the legal aspect of the surrogacy. It’s important, but it’s the boring part, so I won’t say much about it here) It will totally be worth it, just wish I had the company on the drive! It’s crazy because I am driving an hour for a maybe 5 minute thing, then back. I have a friend who lives a few minutes from where I have to go and I am borrowing some movies and books from her for my next class, so we are meeting for me to get them. So I guess it works out. 🙂

It’s Thursday so I wanted to give an update! I should have quite a bit to say on Tuesday when I’m back!

Mama Kangaroo

Before even considering surrogacy, I thought about how it might affect my little lady. (Lets call her little K) She has asked me several times for a baby brother (not happening!) and I didnt want her to get confused. I decided one day to just flat out ask her what she would think if Mommy grew a baby in her tummy for another Mommy and Daddy. She had many questions, so I just explained that there are some people who are unable to have a baby like Mommy was. She didn’t ask why, so I continued. I told her that sometimes those people need someone else to grow the baby for them, then when the baby comes out, the Mommy and Daddy (I felt it was too much to explain that it’s not always a Mommy and Daddy..sometimes just one, sometimes two Mommys, and sometimes two Daddy’s) of the baby gets to take him/her home. I could just see her little wheels turning. She asked who takes the baby out, so I said “the Doctor”. Her response…”Like on your doctor show?” She has watched Grey’s Anatomy with me before and has seen babies delivered on the show. She doesn’t know where the baby is actually coming out of haha, so my answer was good enough for her when I said “yup, exactly!” She hasn’t asked where the baby comes out of, but if/when she does, I plan to tell her the truth. My parents were always honest with me from what I can remember, so I want to be with her. It’s not like I’m going to say “hey, wanna know where babies come from?”

I have 2 friends actually going through this at the same time as I am, so it’s neat to have them to talk to. One of them suggested a book called “The Kangaroo Pouch.” I instantly ordered it from Amazon and when it came, read it to little K. She loved it. She still had questions, but I think it helped her understand which questions would make sense to ask. The book is about a little Kangaroo whose Mom is going to be a surrogate. The Kangaroo narrates the whole experience and it’s a really sweet and simple story. I recommend it for anyone who wants to teach their child about surrogacy, especially if you have young children and are planning to be a surrogate.

I will update on how little K takes everything as it goes.

 

UPDATE: I got my official contract last week and spoke to my attorney Sunday to make sure I understood it all. Now I have to print and sign it, and get it notarized. Unfortunately I have to drive pretty far to get it done, but it’ll be worth it in the end! Then Sunday I start my first meds…the easy ones. I have so many appointments in February and March, but thankfully I was able to schedule them during my lunch breaks so I don’t have to ask for time off!

I also found out that Little K will get to visit the baby before he/she leaves the hospital with the parents. I think this will be great closure for her since she will be with me through the whole pregnancy.

My newest journey

Hello world.
I started blogging 6 months ago, published a few posts, then just stopped. I was in a weird place in my life. I could have blogged for days..weeks..months..about my ex and how much I disliked him. But I really didn’t want to be that person. So I have decided to make my blog about an exciting journey I am about to embark on. I’ll start from the beginning.

In the summer of 2016 I was re-evaluating my life. I became a single Mom shortly before this and my daughter was what was keeping me happy and put together. I couldn’t fall apart because I needed to be the best I could be for her. I prayed and really started thinking of what I could do. Well, I had just graduated school with my Bachelors…something I didn’t think I would ever do. Then I decided to go back to school almost immediately to get my Masters. Why not right? There are days where I have no idea what I was thinking, but I am also so proud that even after everything I’ve been through, I kept going and I will have my masters in summer of 2017.

I still needed to do something more. I follow a few pages on Facebook and Instagram for young children who have survived cancer, passed away from cancer, passed from something else, and I feel such huge connections to these sweet children. I could never imagine losing my daughter, let alone continuing on without her. These parents are so strong and brave and do everything for their children, including continue with their lives, have more children, become happy again, and it is so amazing to see. They all have some sort of organization dedicated to them that people can donate to. My favorites that I follow are: Baby Boy Bakery, Prayers for Kylee, and Lilly Bumpus. Definitely check them out!
What I am getting at here is that I wish I could donate to these, but I am just not in a place where I can. But I pray for them, follow them, and talk about them as often as I can. I feel like that’s still not enough.
What could I do that would be a huge help to someone else? What is something I could do that if someone did the same for me I would be forever grateful? I wanted to do something that I felt strongly about and that would be important to me.

One day I was messing around on Facebook, which is a regular occurrence for me, when an ad popped up on my feed. How does Facebook know what I want to do before I even do?!? It was an ad for a surrogate agency. I read the comments and it seemed legit, so I did my research on this particular company, and it looked like a great company to go through. I was missing just one of the necessary requirements to qualify. I was too overweight. I had just started a weight loss journey, but I had started these “journeys” before and failed, so I didn’t really know if I could do it. But I applied anyways, hoping I could lose the weight before they actually had to weigh me. You have to be a healthy weight because there are medications you have to take before doing it, and being overweight can affect you negatively when taking the meds. Long story short…I did it! My goal was to lose the weight by November, because I had to get insurance through the agency since my insurance doesn’t cover me as a surrogate, and open enrollment was November-January. If I didn’t lose the weight by January, I would have to wait a whole year to try again. I worked my butt off, and from August-November, I lost 40 pounds. I was where I needed to be to be a surrogate.
Thankfully the agency was great about allowing me to start the process while I was still losing weight. I had to get a letter from my doctor saying I was healthy enough to conceive and carry a child, I had to get a Pap smear, get a hold of my medical records from when I lived in another state during my pregnancy with my daughter, I had to get a psych evaluation, and there was a lot of paperwork. It is January now and I have finished my screenings and passed them all. On February 5th I start birth control (to get me on the cycle of the egg donor), Prenatal Vitamins, and baby aspirin. I will also be starting an antibiotic next week. I will be doing meds via injection before my transfer date, which will be either March 23rd or 24th.

I am going to blog about my journey as a surrogate, and I am so excited to share!

My next post is going to be filled with tips I have for talking to your young child or children about the surrogacy process. My daughter is 4 so I have had to carefully explain the process to her so that it doesn’t come as a surprise to when things really move along.