I started blogging 6 months ago, published a few posts, then just stopped. I was in a weird place in my life. I could have blogged for days..weeks..months..about my ex and how much I disliked him. But I really didn’t want to be that person. So I have decided to make my blog about an exciting journey I am about to embark on. I’ll start from the beginning.
In the summer of 2016 I was re-evaluating my life. I became a single Mom shortly before this and my daughter was what was keeping me happy and put together. I couldn’t fall apart because I needed to be the best I could be for her. I prayed and really started thinking of what I could do. Well, I had just graduated school with my Bachelors…something I didn’t think I would ever do. Then I decided to go back to school almost immediately to get my Masters. Why not right? There are days where I have no idea what I was thinking, but I am also so proud that even after everything I’ve been through, I kept going and I will have my masters in summer of 2017.
I still needed to do something more. I follow a few pages on Facebook and Instagram for young children who have survived cancer, passed away from cancer, passed from something else, and I feel such huge connections to these sweet children. I could never imagine losing my daughter, let alone continuing on without her. These parents are so strong and brave and do everything for their children, including continue with their lives, have more children, become happy again, and it is so amazing to see. They all have some sort of organization dedicated to them that people can donate to. My favorites that I follow are: Baby Boy Bakery, Prayers for Kylee, and Lilly Bumpus. Definitely check them out!
What I am getting at here is that I wish I could donate to these, but I am just not in a place where I can. But I pray for them, follow them, and talk about them as often as I can. I feel like that’s still not enough.
What could I do that would be a huge help to someone else? What is something I could do that if someone did the same for me I would be forever grateful? I wanted to do something that I felt strongly about and that would be important to me.
One day I was messing around on Facebook, which is a regular occurrence for me, when an ad popped up on my feed. How does Facebook know what I want to do before I even do?!? It was an ad for a surrogate agency. I read the comments and it seemed legit, so I did my research on this particular company, and it looked like a great company to go through. I was missing just one of the necessary requirements to qualify. I was too overweight. I had just started a weight loss journey, but I had started these “journeys” before and failed, so I didn’t really know if I could do it. But I applied anyways, hoping I could lose the weight before they actually had to weigh me. You have to be a healthy weight because there are medications you have to take before doing it, and being overweight can affect you negatively when taking the meds. Long story short…I did it! My goal was to lose the weight by November, because I had to get insurance through the agency since my insurance doesn’t cover me as a surrogate, and open enrollment was November-January. If I didn’t lose the weight by January, I would have to wait a whole year to try again. I worked my butt off, and from August-November, I lost 40 pounds. I was where I needed to be to be a surrogate.
Thankfully the agency was great about allowing me to start the process while I was still losing weight. I had to get a letter from my doctor saying I was healthy enough to conceive and carry a child, I had to get a Pap smear, get a hold of my medical records from when I lived in another state during my pregnancy with my daughter, I had to get a psych evaluation, and there was a lot of paperwork. It is January now and I have finished my screenings and passed them all. On February 5th I start birth control (to get me on the cycle of the egg donor), Prenatal Vitamins, and baby aspirin. I will also be starting an antibiotic next week. I will be doing meds via injection before my transfer date, which will be either March 23rd or 24th.
I am going to blog about my journey as a surrogate, and I am so excited to share!
My next post is going to be filled with tips I have for talking to your young child or children about the surrogacy process. My daughter is 4 so I have had to carefully explain the process to her so that it doesn’t come as a surprise to when things really move along.